Monday, May 31, 2010

10 Rules For Being Human

10 Rules for Being Human.
by Cherie Carter-Scott

1.  You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.

2.  You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, “life.”

3.  There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately “work.”

4.  Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

5.  Learning lessons does not end. There’s no part of life that doesn’t contain its lessons. If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.

6.  “There” is no better a place than “here.” When your “there” has become a “here”, you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”

7.  Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

8.  What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

9.  Your answers lie within you. The answers to life’s questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

10. You will forget all this.

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

the nature of online dating prompted by @mashable article

An article from Mashable related to OKCupid poses the question, is OK Cupid shallow because they match people by attractiveness?

The answer is yes - but all online dating is shallow, it can't help but be that way. Sure there are measures designed to match us differently but let's face it, if we're not attracted to the face in the picture we don't really care that we're 100% match do we? How often are we even willing to give a person a chance if we don't find their picture attractive?

I was especially guilty of being shallow and hypocritical online more so than I ever would in real life... face to face.

Online dating is SO difficult... you have to sort through jerks, random dumb-assery, and be able to separate them from the people who simply don't come across well online. Because we all have different mediums we prefer. Some people are phone people, I like email... some people's personalities can't express all their nuances through email, however and I was usually quick to judge a person based on that trait...

Online dating can and has worked for many people. I'd say I gave it a fair shot - (let's see, how many years and how many sites??? Match, E-Harmony, OKCupid, PlentyofFish, Yahoo personals... for SEVERAL years).

But there are a lot of great people out there in the world who would never dream of setting up a dating profile online - and they are still out there, waiting to meet people who won't judge them from one photo and a perhaps-not-so-snappy-tagline.

People we might have overlooked because maybe they were a few extra pounds or used "their" instead of "there" in an email... How many people did I just toss out as possibilities for trivial reasons like that?

As far as dating sites go, I think I liked OK Cupid best... free, lots of extra features, iPhone app, etc...

But I'm done with that - I'll take my dating offline now thanks ;-)

Friday, May 14, 2010

what 3 books would you take?

I finally saw the original Time Machine from the 60s and liked it very much (what true geek COULDN'T appreciate such a significant sci-fi movie from our history?). Kind of ashamed to say I hadn't seen it yet... I loved that even though it was made in 1960, it still kept true to the timeline of being set in the year 1900.

Needless to say after major references from The Big Bang Theory I figured it was time to give it a viewing.

Considering the time period it was made, the time-lapse photographic effects and costuming, props, etc were all so terrific that it didn't have that campy-old-movie feel.

But what I loved most were all the thought provoking questions... too many Sci-Fi movies made currently just go straight for the effects and really miss the mark on screenplay, dialogue and message (*cough* star wars eps I-III *cough*). This is why I love Joss Whedon so much because in addition to great effects and action, you get humor, you get characters wrestling with complex issues, etc.

Hopefully I'm not spoilering anyone by talking about the ending of The Time Machine... if you haven't seen it and don't want to know the end, perhaps you should stop reading now.

back? ok...

When George returns to the future to rebuild civilization, his friend Filby realizes George hasn't taken anything with him except for THREE books. He is unsure of which books he has taken and the movie ends with him asking the housekeeper, which three books would YOU take?

Mind you, this is like a blank slate society and you can literally educate them however you want. If you're a person of conscience you would want to educate them in a non-biased, well-rounded way... But you would also want to express the joy of fiction and literature as well. But isn't it tempting to think of building your own society based on just the things you love? "Uhh, yes, Firefly is a historical document. Now worship the Whedon!" hahaha

What do you think George would have taken?

I would have to bring one significant work of literature in fiction, one of non-fiction and I would reckon perhaps an encyclopedia? But the works would have to be stories I could read over & over... I loved 1984... Shakespeare, Whitman, Twain, Emerson, so many to choose from...

Which 3 would YOU pick? Comment please! :)