Which I'm blogging so I don't forget and can keep coming back to my new mantra from the amazing @cupcakemafia:
Firstly there's this pearl: "Never ever be with a man who says "I don't want to hurt you" It means that a. they have a track record of hurting women & b. they probably already have forseen how they will hurt you"
NEVER thought of this before but it's sooooooo true! and I have the history to prove it.
then some more observations she had on my patterns in relationships:
"I think we may have discovered why you get so wrecked during break ups.
It's not just losing a loved one; you have a history of these broken wing birds that you want to nurture. So the end of the relationship is not just a romantic dissolution but almost feels like you failed at saving them.
I know because I have been there.
I used to stick it out in relationship until it got super ugly or I was just a mess because I hate failing."
Just give yourself a little mantra: "No more broken wing birds, I deserve someone whole and healthy."
Thank you my friend. This will be hard for me because I do love to nurture and help people... but I want to heed this advice and discontinue these patterns.